Frequently Asked Questions

Everything you might be wondering—from ceremony details to logistics and what to expect along the way.

BOOKING & PROCESS

  • My fee covers consultation calls, ceremony writing, revisions, officiating, and marriage license filing. The add-ons are: premarital counseling, attendance at your rehearsal, and travel fees for ceremonies more than 75 miles from my home.

  •  As many times as you need. My typical workflow looks like: intro call → love story interview → editorial discussion (if needed) → ceremony finalized → final walkthrough call → wedding day. In the final weeks before your wedding, you'll hear from me more frequently.

  • Anywhere within 75 miles of my home, including all of Northern Virginia (Fairfax, Arlington, Alexandria, Loudoun, Prince William counties), Maryland (Montgomery, Howard, Prince George's, Calvert, Anne Arundel counties), Washington DC, West Virginia, and Delaware. I ask a travel fee for destinations that take two or more hours of driving to get to so I can stay overnight. Getting married farther out? Let's talk — I'm often able to make it work with advance notice.

CEREMONY & PERSONALIZATION

  • You have a lot of say in your ceremony. With a Story package, I start with a one-hour love story interview where you tell me about your relationship — how you met, what you love about each other, what makes you you as a couple. I take detailed notes and draft a ceremony from scratch. You review it, give feedback, and we revise until it's exactly right.

    For a Signature or Sweet & Simple ceremony, I work from an existing framework and personalize it with your input.

  • Can you do a ceremony with zero mention of God or spirituality?

    Yes — and honestly, this is not only where I shine, it’s my preference. The majority of my couples are secular, and I love crafting ceremonies that are meaningful, moving, and completely faith-free. Your ceremony will be 100% authentic to you.

  • We want to honor some religious or cultural traditions, even if we're not personally religious. Is that okay?

    Absolutely. I maintain an extensive library of traditions, rituals, and readings from a wide range of cultural and religious backgrounds — and I'm always adding to it. If it's important to you, it's important to me. Just know, you'll need to supply any physical props the ritual requires.

  • Yes, go for it! If you want to write personal vows, do it. I'm happy to share examples and give feedback, but there's truly no wrong way to do it. I typically suggest 500–750 words as a sweet spot, but it's really up to you.

  •  Most ceremonies run 15–20 minutes. The shortest I've done was 10 minutes (I'd gently talk you out of that). Ceremonies with multiple readings or speakers can run up to 45 minutes — I generally recommend not exceeding that, especially for outdoor ceremonies where guest comfort matters.

  • No, mostly. Sometimes I ask it to collate my notes and or help frame your story - but then I do a bunch of editing for tone, clarity and accuracy.

    You're paying for my time, experience and skills, so from the start of the writing process I know how things should sound and feel.

    And if AI is a big no-no for you, then I will happily exclude it from the whole thing. Your wish is my command!

Hell yes! I marry all folk regardless of age*, gender, race, or background. Full stop.


*Ya gotta be 18+. Sorry, kids.

DO YOU mARRY LGBTQIA+ cOUPLES? POLY PEOPLE?

WEDDING DAY DETAILS

  • At least one hour before the ceremony begins — always. I use that time to connect with your other vendors, do a walkthrough of the space, and make sure everything is in order before your guests arrive. Your timeline should never have to wait on me.

  •  Married by Miller is a one-woman operation, but I have relationships with three other trusted officiants I could call on in an emergency. I take that responsibility seriously and have never left a couple without coverage.

LEGAL DETAILS

  • Yes — happily. Marriage license requirements vary by state, so I'll walk you through exactly what you need to do in advance. After the ceremony, I'll file your license with the appropriate court. You'll receive a keepsake certificate the evening of your wedding and can order certified copies for insurance, name changes, and other legal purposes.

  • Can you help with a legal name change after the wedding? Yes! I can walk you through the name change process in your state, provide a checklist of required documents, and connect you with additional services if needed.

ADD-ONS

MISCELLANEOUS

  • I’d be delighted to! After working weddings for the last few years, I’m thrilled to recommend my favorite vendors. They’re a delight to work with and will make your wedding day dreams come true!

  • If you really want me to, then sure! But usually I leave after the ceremony so you can go get the party started!

  • I almost never book two weddings on the same day. No one needs that kind of scheduling anxiety!

  • I don't require it, but I do offer it as an add-on for couples who are interested. The process uses the Prepare/Enrich framework — you and your partner each complete a survey separately, and then we meet to discuss the results together. It's a great way to start a marriage intentionally.

  • I will, for an additional fee of $250. I like to make sure rehearsals don’t keep me from performing other weddings - and your planner can do just as good a job running this as I can!

  • If it’s going to take me more than two hours to drive to your venue from my home in Rockville, there will be a travel fee - usually just the cost of a three star hotel room or better.